The Healing Power of Listening


The other day I received a phone call.  The person on the other end of the line asked me a question, and as I spoke about three words to begin my response, she interrupted. I stopped my response and waited for her to finish. Then as I began again, the same thing happened.  This person did not seem to understand the value of listening. I made a mental note of the experience so I could be aware of my own behavior in conversation with others.

A few days later, I observed a couple in a restaurant, and they too were talking over each other, and neither was hearing what the other was saying.  They were not arguing, they were simply trying to have a conversation.  Shortly after this I observed a little boy trying to tell his father something, and it was as if the boy were invisible, he was never even acknowledged. I began to reflect on the “art of listening” and recent events in my life.  As I did this, I had an “A ha!” moment.  There had been an unusual amount of confusion in my life and at times I felt overwhelmed, and just could not seem to get clarity on some issues.  I had developed a sense of disconnection with my spiritual guidance. As I was pondering on this lesson in listening, I realized that I had allowed all the disorganization in my life to prevent me from tuning into my heart.  I was trying to “sort things out” mentally, and I was not hearing my heart’s message.

Then I thought of all the times students have asked me “How can I talk to my guides; how do I know they are there?”  My answer to this question has always been “Listen with your heart”.

If I need guidance, I find it works best for me to stop whatever I am doing, take a deep breath, say a prayer, invoke the distant healing symbol, and ask that the Reiki energy help connect me with my spiritual guidance.  When I feel the energy flowing, I will ask a specific question, stay very quiet and pay attention to what I “hear”.  Occasionally I audibly hear a voice, usually I FEEL the message. This same technique applies for me when I am doing Reiki treatments for others.  When I find an area of the person’s body that has a blockage, and I feel that we need additional information about this, I use the same process of connecting with my guides to receive a specific answer.

Often some of our deepest wounds are a result of feeling misunderstood or as though we have not been heard. This can result in a person feeling unworthy, or insignificant.  As a healing channel, one of the most powerful things we can do is help those who come to us know that we care enough to truly listen.  By this I mean, we are NOT thinking of our response while they are in mid-sentence, but we ARE giving 100% of our attention to the person who is speaking. We listen with our entire being.
When we are frustrated because we do not feel “connected”, it is simply because we have placed a veil between ourselves and other people as well as our spiritual guidance.  We do this in many ways such as holding an expectation of the form it should take, by trying too hard or staying so busy that we do not allow ourselves the opportunity to listen. Another way we disconnect is by focusing our attention on what others are doing rather than on our own thoughts, feelings, actions, and behavior.

Listening is a healing art.  We can develop an amazing ability to help others feel as though they are truly heard simply by giving them our full attention when they are speaking.  In this way we hear one another on the deepest level. I find this important to do, especially when working with clients and students.

It is very healing to know that someone cares enough to really listen.  Sometimes I find it helpful to invoke the distant symbol when I am having a pre-treatment dialogue with a client.  In this case I do so with the intention that a bridge of light connects our higher-selves and that we are conversing from our higher minds and hearts.  This enables me to “hear” things that may not be verbalized but are important to the healing session.

In closing, I would like to borrow a phrase from the Course in Miracles, “Every encounter is a holy encounter.” If we remember this whenever someone speaks to us, we have an opportunity to be Divinely blessed by simply hearing what they have to say and listening with our hearts.

Love, peace, and infinite blessings,



Laurelle Gaia a student, a teacher, practitioner, facilitator of the healing arts and served as a healer in the National Institute of Health’s Glioblastoma Research project. (3 year study on the effects distant healing has on the quality of life for patients with this rare form of brain cancer.) A Professional Licensed Reiki Master Teacher and Karuna Reiki® Master Teacher with the International Center for Reiki Training (ICRT). Laurelle served as the Director of the ICRT Licensed Reiki Master teacher training program for about 25 years. In this capacity she have developed training programs and been a mentor for many of the other ICRT teachers. She founded the Infinite Light Healing Studies Center in 1999. Author of Infinite Spectrum Color Healing Course, Sacred Circles, Be Peace Now, Reiki Crystal Healing and The Book on Karuna Reiki. Currently developing the Facebook group based on the book called The Butterfly Squads.