How to Gain Confidence in Your Relationship with Reiki by Laurelle Shanti Gaia

Articles Reiki News Magazine, Blog

ONE OF THE MOST CHALLENGING THINGS for new Reiki practitioners is to learn to trust that they are actually able to channel Reiki effectively. Many who attend Reiki classes are very new to the concept of energy healing. They often have no idea what they are supposed to experience. It is relatively common for new practitioners to have doubts. Some have thoughts or questions such as: Who am I to think I could be a healer? I might not be smart enough to do this, or I am not spiritually pure enough to be a healer. Nothing could be further from the truth. Thoughts like those are simply examples of the negative self talk that happens for many of us. Such thoughts are driven by ego.

Our ego can motivate us as well as hold us back. Ego is a healthy addition to life, when it inspires us to do the best that we personally can do. However, ego can create doubt and also cause us to see ourselves as separate from one another. Ego inspires us to judge each other as well as our self. Ego analyzes, and can actually hinder us in so many areas of our life. Reiki is an area in which it is very important to remove any limitations ego may try to impose.

Among the first things most people learn in their Reiki classes is the definition of the word Reiki. A widely accepted explanation is Rei means Universal/Spiritual/Divine and Ki means Life force/Energy/Light/Love.

My first introduction to the true meaning of unconditional love was through my first Reiki session. I had heard that phrase before, but hearing and experiencing are two totally different things. I was uncomfortable with the very thought of allowing a stranger to actually touch me. However, I was very curious about Reiki. During my first Reiki session, I was surprised that after only a few minutes, my discomfort with the idea of touch was quickly melting away. I was growing relaxed and calm. Before I knew it, I could barely distinguish where I ended and the practitioner began. I was feeling completely accepted for simply being me. There were no judgments. I was feeling love with no hidden agenda from the practitioner, no expectations of me, nor attachments. No one wanted anything from me, and I was able to simply relax and receive. Very early in my Reiki experiences, I discovered that Reiki is simply an exchange of love and acceptance between client and practitioner.
As I went out into my community and joined Reiki shares, I was disheartened when I began to hear practitioners correcting one another. Statements such as;  ‘When doing Reiki, your hands must always be cupped and your fingers MUST be together.”  “When you do Reiki you must stand in this exact position.” Or worst of all “Stop that! You are not doing real Reiki.” These statements were particularly confusing because I had given Reiki with my palms flat and fingers expanded, and sometimes I was even seated. Each time the person received Reiki, they felt calmer, or had less pain, and I always felt great afterward. I found the implication that there was fake Reiki to be ridiculous.

Over the 25 plus years I have been practicing, I have learned that some people truly do need rules to be able to be open to try new things. Due to lack of self-confidence, some people feel better about themselves when they are criticizing others. Other people are intuitive and can sense energies quite well. For the latter, having rules to follow is not necessary, and trusting Reiki to work for the highest good is all they need.
I personally have developed my one and only rule for my practice of Reiki. That is, once I have activated the energy, I must get out of the way. What is meant here is I completely release myself of any responsibility for results of the session. A Reiki practitioner’s job is simply to show up, clear ego out of the way and let the energy flow. This means we do not need to provide “messages” or interpretations of anything that happened during a session. It is not our job to determine what is happening.

Reiki is an energy of self-empowerment. Reiki is not the healer. The practitioner is not the healer. However, when a practitioner is a clear instrument, Reiki flows unimpeded to help the client relax deeply and access his or her personal healing power. The practitioner and Reiki HELP the client heal him or herself from the inside out. The client is his or her own healer. Some methods of disengaging from ego are through prayer and strong intention to remove ego from a situation. Another might be to have a thought or vision of yourself as an instrument, perhaps a flute, through which energy flows freely.
Some people like to focus on an image, or a sound such as a mantra. Think of an actor or public speaker who is prone to stage fright. As he steps out on stage and realizes he is nervous, he might imagine the nervousness (a construct of ego) is a coat or cape, and then imagines it dropping to the floor. His pure essence remains, and it is ready to perform. Through experience, we grow with our practice of Reiki; however being a Reiki practitioner does not depend on in-depth studies, years of experience or any special talents. All Reiki needs is a clear pathway through which to flow.

Although Reiki often helps to produce physical, mental and emotional healing, it also helps us unveil our true self. By true self I mean our pure spirit. This is the part of us that does not judge, compete with nor compare itself to others. Our true self fully accepts everyone, exactly as we are. Our true self does not need acknowledgement that we have done a good job.

Reiki is the energetic essence of spiritual wisdom; it facilitates the awakening of the recipient’s and the practitioner’s connection to this wisdom. Once a new practitioner realizes that he or she is not THE healer, and Reiki is not THE healer, but that the recipient is the actual healer, an ego-free relationship with Reiki can begin. One of the most important things I learned when I first began to explore energy healing came to me through this statement; As an energy healer, YOU have no claim and no blame. What the teacher meant by this was that when wonderful results are achieved this does not give permission for the healing channel to put him or herself on a pedestal as the great healer. Conversely, when there are no immediate, recognizable results, this does not mean that the channel was ineffective or to blame.

Our only jobs as a practitioner are to show up with a loving heart, and intend to be helpful in the highest possible way and to get out of our own way. When our ego is set aside, the flow of Reiki is strong and clear. We know the ego is trying to slip back in when we start to question our self. When thoughts arise like Am I doing this right? or I wonder what this feeling means?, the ego is trying to
analyze. A deep breath and shift of focus can clear the mind, and clear the channel again.

If we re-examine the many possible definitions of Rei and Ki, I find that my interpretation of Spiritual Life Force Energy is the same as my understanding of Divine Love. So to me Reiki has simply become a powerful way to share Divine Love, and it is impossible to Love wrong. It is my sincere hope that the hearts of all the people who read this article will be deeply blessed by the love of Reiki.

by Laurelle Gaia

Published in Reiki News Magazine 2014